You can avoid further deteriorating feelings and being to mend broken fences, by offering an apology. This needs to be an apology so good it will be impossible for your ex not to take you back. You really need to put a lot of thought into this.

This is not an apology that should come at the spur of the moment. This needs to be well planned, honest and heartfelt. You can’t bluff your way through this one. In this apology, you will first need to outline what you did wrong. Admitting your mistakes is the first step. You then need to let your ex know what you are going to do so the problems don’t arise in the future. Finally, you need to ask for forgiveness.

You should also be prepared to listen to your ex. You should give them time to express their feelings and concerns. This demonstrates that you ware willing to have an open line of communication. Your spouse may bring up hurt feelings or unresolved issues; you must work through these in a conversational manner. You need to remain calm and determined to resolve these issues.

You need to keep the focus on you and not on anything your ex has done. It is best if you avoid use of the word but as this tends to negate anything said before. Your ex will perceive this as your blaming them.

You need to be mindful of both your and your ex’s body language. Body language may tell you more about how they are receiving your message then the words they are using. You can find a lot of information on body language on the internet.

Before you even approach your ex to give this apology, you need to have taken some time in honest reflection. You should have a good idea of why the relationship failed and the changes you must make if it is to be restored. You may want to get honest input from a friend or family member to get an outsider’s view. You can not give a heartfelt apology until you have done this sole searching.

Chose your words carefully and mean what you say. This is not the last conversation before your relationship can be restored, but it should begin to rebuild the trust.